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[NagiNaoe101]

Some person said that about me, OK, so I'm a little mousey and I read a little too much, but I am wondering, what the hell? I thought college would open up the doors to people who are like me, intellectuals who work their hardest to get somewhere.

I am just curious, should I just drop my books and just go out and party, even though I hate loud music, especially Rap, Hip-Hop, and modern R & B. Usually my idea of going out to a concert is going to see an orchestra, should I just drop that?

I want to change myself before I am left finding out that I'm a loner.

[ian]

First off, I don't think you should change yourself to fit in.

Plus, just because one person doesn't think you're date material doesn't mean everyone does.  It sounds to me like you want to try and meet and intellectual person in a none intellectual setting (ie: a party).

The majority people who go and drink and party a lot, usually don't share the same interests as a person who enjoys reading, going to the orchestra, etc.  My advice would be to do the things you enjoy, and try to meet someone when you are doing those things.  So lets say if you enjoy reading, perhaps go to a bookstore that has a starbucks and spend some time there.  If you enjoy the orchestra, see if there is some kind of club at your school, or when you go the orchestra perhaps check out a nearby restaurant bar where people would go after the production.  Basically you'll need to surround yourself with people who share your interests.

[Singer]

Yea, you'll find your niche, you just have to keep looking.

[Lexiemoo]

I am just curious, should I just drop my books and just go out and party, even though I hate loud music, especially Rap, Hip-Hop, and modern R & B. Usually my idea of going out to a concert is going to see an orchestra, should I just drop that?

I want to change myself before I am left finding out that I'm a loner.

do not change yourself to fit in!

try going to libraries and book stores to meet people.  b&n and borders have become great meeting places for people who love to read. chris had a good idea saying the book store.

you will be much happier finding someone being yourself, then knowing someone likes who you know you are not.

[ian]

chris had a good idea saying the book store.

 

[Brii™ FTW]

Honestly, I don't think you would be happy with some girl who loved to go out and listen to/do all the things you aren't into.

Try going to coffee shops, internet cafe's, concerts you like, and just places you like going in general.

Someday you will find someone that will make you happy and you guys will compliment each other nicely, but until then, you just have to be patient

[Lexiemoo]

haha! sorry ian! guess i'm just making up for all the times i called chris "ian"

[Chris]

Honestly, I don't think you would be happy with some girl who loved to go out and listen to/do all the things you aren't into.

Try going to coffee shops, internet cafe's, concerts you like, and just places you like going in general.

Someday you will find someone that will make you happy and you guys will compliment each other nicely, but until then, you just have to be patient

Once you get into your major classes you also meet people that often have the same interests as you do. Even if none of these people are date material it'll often lead to new places to hang out where you meet more people that share your interests.

[NagiNaoe101]

Thos are all great ideas, I have been using that, met some great people to spend time with and joined a book club. Seems to work, and the people i have been hanging out with are very interested in what i have to say. Thanks you so much

[ian]

Thos are all great ideas, I have been using that, met some great people to spend time with and joined a book club. Seems to work, and the people i have been hanging out with are very interested in what i have to say. Thanks you so much

Glad everything has worked out.  Considering you liked the advice you recieved, perhaps you could tell your friends about the site and help spread the word?  We're trying to build a good community here and need everyones help.