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[ian]

Well, what is your feeling on it?  Are you content with letting him graduate and move on without knowing how you feel?  If you're ok with it, then I guess thats it.  If not, then I would reccomend telling him while there is still time.  Either way it may not change anything, but at least you won't look back and wonder what could have been.

[ITGIRL07]

I had a chance to talk to him one of the last days of classes (we're in finals week now).  I was asking him what his future plans are.  He mentioned that he's thinking of grad school, but he's applying to places where his girlfriend is applying.  This is the first time he ever mentioned a girlfriend; he never even hinted about one in all the months I've known him.

I guess it could be worse...I would feel really stupid if he said he had a boyfriend.  Still, it was a nasty turn of events.  As you can probably guess, I remained mum on the issue of my crush.  I think now I know that this was the only way things could be.  Why are the good guys always all ready taken?  Have I missed the boat for finding available guys or what?  I don't know...

[Chris]

For all you know maybe he just recently met this girl which would make sense why he never said anything before. It might be better that you didn't say anything but then at the same time if you had said something maybe things would be different. I feel like as long as you know you can deal better with an issue that arises then just sitting here speculating.

[ITGIRL07]

From the way he was talking about her, it doesn't sound like she's someone new.  It seems like he's been in the relationship for quite some time [like they chose to go to the same college and now are picking a grad school so they can stay together] and simply neglected to mention it until now.

I think speculating here saved me from a terribly awkward situation out there.  I still like him as a (former) teacher and friend.  Is there an appropriate way I can say goodbye and wish him luck and ask to keep in touch?

[ITGIRL07]

I probably should clarify a bit.  I went to his graduation ceremony and gave my congratulations in person before he went through the procession.  I also took several pictures of him that night (one photo was taken with his knowledge and consent; the rest were snapshots from some distance away).

I was able to talk to him once, and only briefly, a week after the ceremony.  I  wished him good luck on his last final exam but didn't have the time to tell him anything about how important he is to me.  So my question is, is it appropriate to contact him via e-mail or Facebook to offer him a copy of the consensual photo taken at graduation or is time to admit that it's over and done and I have to let go of him forever?

[ian]

I don't think there is anything wrong with offering him the photos.

Taking it further then that is questionable.

[Chris]

I think the photos are a good idea. Just let him know that you enjoyed getting to know him and that you want to stay in contact with him. You never know what can happen in the future.